Last night I received a text from a someone who is one half of a couple that Chris & I spent quite a bit of time with when we were together. We usually had a good time together, and Chris always enjoyed spending time with texter’s husband, however I wouldn't say texter and I are the best of friends... more like good acquaintances, that went to high school together.
The text read somethin along the lines of this “ha, this is funny, but kinda sad, _(husband)_ just got a text from someone saying 'do you not like me anymore or something?', guess who?!”... and it instantly ruffled my feathers. She was referring to Chris.
I've never been an ex-boyfriend basher, even when I had ex's who cheated on me. I have always chosen to take the high road, forgive and forget, move on, no sense in wasting energy on a grudge. Especially in this instance, where Chris never did me anywrong, we simply just fell out of love.
I tried to just ignore it, but couldn't help myself... I don't see what's funny/sad about someone trying to maintain a friendship, and I wouldn't want Chris to be anything but happy. I shot back something about how I don't really find it funny... that if _(husband)_ doesn't watn to be friends with Chris maybe he should just tell him instead of making fun of him behind his back.
Am I being too mama bear'ish/protective of Chris? I think the part that really irritated me is that this isn't the first time she brought it up, a few months ago when her and I got dinner she laughed about how Chris had made plans with _(husband)_ but when the day rolled around husband just ignored Chris' texts/calls.
And the fact that we don't talk regularly, so she brings this up out of nowhere as if she wants to be patted on the back or high-fived or something?
I don't think she was expecting me to call her out on it, and eventually shot back something about how they are just so busy and have no free time. I just put my phone on silent and went to bed.
I've still got a bad taste in my mouth over it though. In my opinion- grow-up. No one wants fake friends, regardless of how you met them. If her husband doesn't want to hang out, be straight... don't make plans and always say "yea we'll get together" and then blow him off. Why even waste your time?! And especially don't run to me gloating about it like a dog that deserves a treat.
What would you have done? Was it silly of me to get defensive about it?