Let's have a toast for the douchebags,
Let's have a toast for the assholes,
Let's have a toast for the scumbags,
Every one of them that I know
(Thank you, Kanye, for those lyrics)
I do my best thinking in the car. Well, that may be a lie... I do my best thinking in the shower... and then on the beach... so in actuality I guess I do my third best thinking in the car. But same difference. I was in a car when I had this revelation, so we'll roll with it. Good thinking = car time.
I am glad I was cheated on.
I know, you're sitting there goin 'this girl has lost her mind'... but that is the exact thought that crossed my mind as I was cruising along running errands last Thursday evening.
I was cheated on by my high school boyfriend of 2 years, and also by my early college boyfriend of a year and a half. 2 out of my 3 serious relationships ended because he cheated. I'm not condoning cheating, nor am I going 'hip hip hooray that was awesome' because it wasn't. It sucked, and it hurt. But that's not the point of this post.
In both instances I remember finding out, and thinking "oh well, his loss... dumbass". Whether that's how I really felt, or if I was just tricking myself into being calm... that was my mindset towards it.
I've never been one of those girls who NEEDS a guy on her arm to be complete. I am who I am. I like what I like, I have my own hobbies, my own friends, my own interests. If I stumble upon someone who fits in that mix- perfect, if not - oh well!
In my opinion, if you cheat on me you are a dumbass, because I'm a pretty damn good girlfriend. Consider it cocky if you want, I call it confidence. I know what I have to offer and for 23 I think it's safe to say I've pretty much got my shit together!
Anyways, tangent. I never really held a grudge to those two ex's who cheated. I become really good friends with one of them after a few years of distance, and the other I will still chat with on occasion.
Most people who I tell that to get all appalled, but what's the point of holding a grudge, we didn't work out, we obviously weren't supposed to work out, so move on.
I'm glad I was cheated on because I now know those feelings of doubt and uncertainty, I know what it feels like to be lied to and led on. I've hit rock bottom in relationships, where you're constantly checking his phone and lurking on his facebook to see what pictures pop up from the weekend. It's not healthy and it's flat out nuts!
But if I hadn't gone through those I don't think I would appreciate the calmness and ease that comes with a healthy relationship.
Just some random thoughts for you on a sunny Thursday afternoon.