I remember hearing about the 5 Languages of Love book a while back, and kind of laughed at the idea. But the more I thought about it the more I agreed, and while I haven't read the whole book I do agree with the excerpts I've read.
Just as everyone learns differently, everyone loves differently.
With Valentine's Day looming around the corner, I found myself in a conversation this morning regarding how I felt most 'loved' and immediately googled to find the quiz and learn my "love language".
If I'm being completely honest - when my results popped up, I felt like an asshole. A materialistic jerk.
But the more I thought about what they said, the more I realized it was true. And the more I realized that's how I naturally 'show' my love for others.
I absolutely adore surprises. When someone takes the time to plan something, or pick something up for me 'just because' I get SO happy.
And I find myself doing it a lot for others, when I'm in a relationship. I LOVE giving gifts, especially ones that are completely at random and just scream the other persons name. Every birthday and Christmas I struggle because I am SO wrapped up in finding the PERFECT gift.
Second place for my 'love languages' was tied between Words of Affirmation and Quality Time, which I can fully agree with. This was really interesting to me, because it pointed out some things that I had realized before. And also reminded me that maybe not everyone feels loved because I surprise them with a gift the way I do (ha!)
(PS I have no affiliation, with this site, the author, the book, etc. I just found it interesting. The quiz can be found here - I'd love to hear what your love language is, and if you agree!)
12 comments:
I read and posted about this not to long ago and it was spot on for me!
Gifts was mine as well - tied with Service... it was spot on for me too.
I'm a Quality Time gal with my dialect being listening and talking - which is close to Words of Affirmation. It's our book club book this month and I really enjoy it. I've actually applied it to more than my romantic relationship because seriously, my family speaks all sorts of languages.
Gifts is my second love language, and I totally felt crappy about that too! HAHA But it's true! And I LOVE giving gifts to people and making them feel special, so it totally fits.
Quality time was my 1st, followed with a tie between Words of Affirmation and Receiving Gifts. I can totally see yours, especially after you explained it. Although, who doesn't love being surprised with a gift???
I totally thought this was kind of ridiculous too until I took it and it made perfect sense to me! I'm quality time and then words of affirmation.
I've heard about this book forever and I've never taken the time to figure out my love language. I'm doing it. And of course, I'll most likely blog about it.
I do agree - the one gift I have gotten from you (that swap foooorrrrever ago) was very thoughtful and you really nailed my style and personality.
I got physical touch (did this quiz just call me slutty?) followed by quality time.
I got physical touch! Kinda weird!
My husband read this book before our wedding and quickly pinpointed that I am an Acts of Service girl, very closely followed by Receiving Gifts. He almost always gets a split result, and hence I never read the book because I'm a shitty wife.
You win some, you lose some.
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